The 3 Types of Mindsets
The 3 Types of Mindsets
I wrote about the 3 types of mindsets that I’ve noticed rule many human dynamics a few days ago and received enough comments and emails to think it could use an official post.
Below is the original text I’d like to expand a bit on:
“Something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. Sadly, the trigger was realizing that almost no women storyteller/filmmaker had been proactive via mentorless.com. In 6 years, I can only think of a handful of emails from women being proactive. And I’ve received my share of emails.
We have been trained not to ask. Not to take space. To wait to be validated before going for it.
Similarly, many male storyteller/filmmaker used the assertive angle when contacting me, assuming they already had done plenty and now it was the world’s job to contribute. This is how it’s been done for a long time and for a while, I didn’t even realize this was happening.
But the proactive mindset is the one I respond to. One I didn’t know existed until a decade ago. One that asks for curiosity and generosity when well used. (Granted, you can be proactive and decide to destroy is the best way to achieve your goal, but let’s assume you are a kind human)
We all naturally lean toward one of the three mindsets.
But we don’t have to be stuck in a mindset we don’t like, even if it comes more naturally to us.
I was a big 3, and I have been enjoying working toward 2. 1 rules the marketplace but its time is ticking.
What is your mindset? Do you like it? Is it a choice or a habit by defect? Chose your mindset.”
We’re all the results of our education and culture. We live in a world where our gender, race and social background do have an impact on how we think and perceive the world. But passed a certain age we got to take our responsibilities, look at the situation and decide where we stand, even if that means departing from what we were told.
Whether you’ve been raised to take the bull by the horns no matter what or to stay quiet, work hard and not make waves, you can grow free from it. It all depends on what type of world you want to be part of.
Whether you’re a male or a female filmmaker, what you’ve been told must be questioned. I am aware that it is harder to question a system that benefits oneself, and I’ll never know if I would write that if I was part of the club with fewer obstacles (I do hope so), but here I am today, offering you to reflect on where you stand and if that’s your choice for the world you want to see a reality.
There is a responsibility that comes with being a filmmaker. If you do it for the paycheck or the ego, you’re in the wrong place. The way we lead our daily lives and behave in the world transpires through our work and the message behind it.
In our competitive field, being ruthless, being laser-focus on a goal at all costs, being assertive to the point of arrogance are validated roads to reach the top of a mountain. But it doesn’t have to be that way.